In 2001 I was surprized that American Bear ran a column by Lawrence Mass, M.D. tha 'warned' bears against bisexual men.

I contacted quirkstreet to see if he read the article. quirkstreet wrote a response which then was included in Dr. Mass' next article, although Dr. Mass still needed to get the last word in, and that 'last word' was yat another anecdote about why bisexual men can't be trusted.

Dr. Mass had a continuing column in American Bear about health concerns for the bear subculture. His articles about bisexuality, however, had no medical substance.

Just recently, I discovered that Bear Café has reprinted these articles on their website. Bear Café is a non-bar non-alcohol gathering for bears, cubs, chubs and their admirers. The Yahoo Group I own and moderate Bi_Bears has posted advertisements sent in by Bear Café. So now I'm in a quandary about what to do...I have a clear "no homophobes, no biphobes" staement on my Yahoo Group web site page: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bi_Bears/

So I wrote the letters to my contact person there at Bear Café:
( the 1st letter )

You can take a bunch of people and ask them what makes them the most sad.

Then you can ask what makes them most angry.

Then, most surprised. Then, most happy. Then, most relaxed.


These are feeling or emotions. Feeling are inside you and only observable if you show them through emotion. A friend I haven't seen in awhile, Robert in Scituate, said to me "Emotion are feeling with videotape." Basically, other maybe unable to know what your feelings are, but the actor/actress wishes the audience to know what the character is feeling, so they emote on stage or in front on film.

To my way of thinking, erotic desire is simpling a feeling, no different, better, worse that any of the others I've named.

But centuries on end, humans have really made it a mess to...just let people feel whatever it is they want to feel.

Please read this:

Bisexual Men: Gay, Bisexual or Biphobia?

By Adrienne Williams (Blueslady)
Posted Wednesday, September 7, 2005

http://www.queerplanet.us/moxie/columnists/bisexual/bisexual-men-gay-bisexual-2.shtml

I like this article very much because in takes Biphobia head on. But even her definition includes past sexual experience with both woman and men. I have that, but, again, to my way of thinking, homosexuality and heterosexuality is not about sex/genital activity but about desire. She says, " If you are attracted to and have had relationships with both men and women, you are in fact bisexual."

Pope Nazi is trying to get rid of all gay men in the priesthood, active or celibate. So, you are Pope Nazi, and you are doing this by the book, get rid of practicing AND celibate gays. One of your seminarian tells you he fantasized about both priests and nuns, but is entirely pledge to celibacy and he is a man of his word...gay, he goes?....or....not gay, he stays? Another seminarian tells you he finds the other seminarians hot and has had sex once with a man several years ago, but now only has sex with his hot girlfriend. ...gay, he goes?...not gay, he stays?...

If Pope Nazi can construct a celibate gay, then I can construct a celibate bi, and a bi who has only had sex with the opposite sex and a bi who only had sex with the same sex.

If your feelings are deemed a threat, not your actions, but your feelings, how free are any of us?